I am currently fighting the custody of my 15 year old son. He is temporarily living with his father. A few weeks ago I made the mistake of giving my son to my abusive ex husband. My son was very disrespectful to me and he constantly felt sorry for his father. His father was poisoning him against me. I thought that if my son lived with his father it would help my ex-husband to hate me less and my son would stop feeling sorry for his father and improve our relationship. Now my ex-husband won't let me see him and my son don't want to talk to me. I can understand how parents that are alienated from their children suffer. The pain that I am going trough is unbelievable. I recently told my therapist that I didn't know what was worse, the death of a child or knowing that he is alive and doesn't want to talk to you or see you.
I need help. I desperately want to save my son, but I don't know how to talk to him or what to say to him.
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